In the world I left behind
Wipe their eyes, and then let go
To the world I left behind
Shed a tear, and then let go
[A Day Without Me – U2]
Ann is 23, lives with her two children in a trailer at the back of her mothers. She is told that she has only two months to live, and this ironically brings her to life. Ann keeps her condition a secret, and in a Café writes a list of things to do before she dies. The list includes things such as:
• Getting fake fingernails.
• Tell my daughters I love them several times a day.
• Say exactly what I think.
• Visit my dad in jail.
• Tape a message for each of my daughters until they are 18.
• Find a new love of my husband.
• [and the one that I have a huge issue with] make someone fall in love.
That is Ann does have a husband, and she doesn’t tell either man that she is going to die. The impact on the Lee, is rebirth. When we are taken into the Lee’s apartment, there is no furniture, taken by his previous love, at the end, after Ann’s death we see him again, repainting the apartment, and rediscovering what life is. But for me, the results don’t justify the means. Ann’s expressed reason for the affair is that her husband is the only man she ever kissed, she had a child with him, at 17, and at 19, and she wanted to experience falling in love again.
Ann decides that she will not tell her husband, mother, and lover, because she doesn’t want the way the remember her to be from Hospital waiting rooms, she wants to live life in the last months she has. It is quite hard to imagine how you would respond after hearing the news you had a month or two to live. Ann’s response is one of courage, and waiting to not leave things unfinished, wanting to create lives without her.
There were a few insightful moments in the film. One of the lines was that we are living borrowed lives with borrowed voices. A pearl of wisdom reminding me a little of some of the Psalms particularly that our glamorous clothes and countless material possession will not go with us through the grave, but more than that we are only given a limited time, for Ann 23 years. For Ann after death there is nothing [which is particularly sad], so we make this time count; through seeking to improve life for each other.
As the women she desired to replace her, came into the families’ life, spending time with the children, she began to fade, and pray (not to God however, as she believed there was nothing after death) that this would be life without her. The messages she recorded for her children, her husband, her mother, and lover were all beautiful. Ann tells Don, her husband to make-up a heaven for the children. The rest are also filled with love and concern, and a rich desire for their happiness. For them to be happy, was to remember her.
The film is beautifully shot, the dialogue is rich, and the characters are immensely easy to relate to. The hardest thing for me to get past was the adultery. The film concludes without showing her death. It ends with a sudden fading out of her life, and images of each of the characters' life without her.
Wipe their eyes, and then let go
To the world I left behind
Shed a tear, and then let go
[A Day Without Me – U2]
Ann is 23, lives with her two children in a trailer at the back of her mothers. She is told that she has only two months to live, and this ironically brings her to life. Ann keeps her condition a secret, and in a Café writes a list of things to do before she dies. The list includes things such as:
• Getting fake fingernails.
• Tell my daughters I love them several times a day.
• Say exactly what I think.
• Visit my dad in jail.
• Tape a message for each of my daughters until they are 18.
• Find a new love of my husband.
• [and the one that I have a huge issue with] make someone fall in love.
That is Ann does have a husband, and she doesn’t tell either man that she is going to die. The impact on the Lee, is rebirth. When we are taken into the Lee’s apartment, there is no furniture, taken by his previous love, at the end, after Ann’s death we see him again, repainting the apartment, and rediscovering what life is. But for me, the results don’t justify the means. Ann’s expressed reason for the affair is that her husband is the only man she ever kissed, she had a child with him, at 17, and at 19, and she wanted to experience falling in love again.
Ann decides that she will not tell her husband, mother, and lover, because she doesn’t want the way the remember her to be from Hospital waiting rooms, she wants to live life in the last months she has. It is quite hard to imagine how you would respond after hearing the news you had a month or two to live. Ann’s response is one of courage, and waiting to not leave things unfinished, wanting to create lives without her.
There were a few insightful moments in the film. One of the lines was that we are living borrowed lives with borrowed voices. A pearl of wisdom reminding me a little of some of the Psalms particularly that our glamorous clothes and countless material possession will not go with us through the grave, but more than that we are only given a limited time, for Ann 23 years. For Ann after death there is nothing [which is particularly sad], so we make this time count; through seeking to improve life for each other.
As the women she desired to replace her, came into the families’ life, spending time with the children, she began to fade, and pray (not to God however, as she believed there was nothing after death) that this would be life without her. The messages she recorded for her children, her husband, her mother, and lover were all beautiful. Ann tells Don, her husband to make-up a heaven for the children. The rest are also filled with love and concern, and a rich desire for their happiness. For them to be happy, was to remember her.
The film is beautifully shot, the dialogue is rich, and the characters are immensely easy to relate to. The hardest thing for me to get past was the adultery. The film concludes without showing her death. It ends with a sudden fading out of her life, and images of each of the characters' life without her.
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